Relationship and a TREE

A plant needs soil, water and sunlight everyday.

A relationship needs 3 important daily ingredients – Communication, Sight and Touch.

If any one of the need is not adequate, the plant starts shrinking and eventually dies off.

In the olden days, People living away from their families for years together having minimal communication when there is no sight or touch involved, their relationship was mediocre.

In the recent information age, with the latest technologies people can live far away from their families for years together with complete access to communication and seeing each other over internet, chatting, talking etc. But there is no touch or feeling in it.

Some of them end up having a second relationship where there is a touch because humans need touch. Most of them not necessarily second relationship but love for material, position, money etc which can replace relationship.

When all the 3 ingredients are supplied regularly, the plant grows daily and one day it becomes the tree.

A tree no more in need of daily care, it is self sufficient in itself to get all the sunlight, water by growing roots deep into the earth.

Till the relationship becomes a TREE, provide the 3 ingredients- Communication, Sight and Touch. It takes years to build a TREE.

Allow relationship to grow into a Tree.

4 stages of love

1. Attraction
2. Awareness- What others cannot see, you see, you appreciate what others cannot.
3. Communion- There is a quality, good judgement, truth.
4. Intimacy- Lose ego, Defencelessness, Let go vulnerability, Not convincing.
- Deepak Chopra.

The fight is not outside, the fight is within

All relationships almost all the exceptions are negligible, can be left of account are ugly. In the beginning they are beautiful, in the beginning you don’t show the reality, in the beginning you pretend. Once the relationship settles and you relax your inner conflict bubbles up and starts being mirrored in your relationship. Then come fights, then come a thousand and one ways of nagging each other and destroying each other.

The only way to resolve inner conflicts is to go deep in meditation. Unless you are resolved within yourself you will create more problems than you already have.

If you move into relationship all your problems will be multiplied. Just watch the greatest and the most beautiful thing in the world is love. But can you find anything uglier, more hell creating?

Remember the imprisonment doesn’t come from the other, it comes from within you.

Move from thinking to feeling, thinking is logical, mathematical, and certain.

Feeling is illogical, irrational, poetry, subjective but it is bliss.

Love – Instinctive infatuation

It is hormonal being attracted by the opposite hormones. It is biochemistry.

Blame GOD for that.

Once instinct is fulfilled, the nature work is done through you, all that smoke disappears. Instinct knows only sex. Love is only a sugar coating on a bitter pill. Instinct does not make you human; it simply keeps you an animal two legged.

Move from instinct to Intuition, move from body to feeling and then finally something starts flowering…it takes time. But that is real love.